So I said I would write about the kind of relationship I had with matt and what happened with him during the 4 years we were together. So here it is....

It was the 14th September 2009, I went for a drink in my local with one of my best friends, there was 2 lads that worked there messing about being the bar making us laugh. My friend, Rachel, said that she knew them both. Around 10 one of the lads finished and came out onto the bar for a drink, he asked to join me and Rachel. He disappeared to catch his bus 15minutes later; I didn't really get to chat to him much, I didn't even know his name.

The following day I went to work at Sainsburys, when I came on my break Rachel had text me saying that matt had come into her work (at tesco express) asking for my number. I had no idea who matt was and being a typical 18 year old couldn't remember much from the night before. She explained who he was and I said I really can't remember but what the hell just give it to him. The next day he text me. We were texting everyday til the following weekend when I saw him in the pub again. I went back to his so we could chill and he treated us to a takeaway, he ended asking me out. So on the 22nd August 2009 we got together.

We became the typical boyfriend and girlfriend of the 20th century then in November 2009 he told me he was being transferred to a pub in Brighton. I was so shocked as nothing had changed between us and we were both happy. I told him to go for it if he wanted, even tho I really didn't want him to. Soon after the new year he packed up his flat and my parents and his mum and step dad helped him to make the big move up to Brighton. It seemed like a lovely pub. I said my goodbyes to him and went home with my parents. We had agreed that I would go up and see him every other weekend but that quickly changed to every weekend because we missed eachother too much. Then in March 2011 he got fired for gross misconduct from showing up to work drunk. He was given 48 hours to vacate his flat so Lucia, my best mate, and her boyfriend Ben helped us to move all his stuff back to southampton where he went to live in his mums annics.

We loved being closer to eachother again and because I basically stayed every night we decided to give it a go and get a flat together. We got a little one bed flat along Shirley high street in May 2011. In July 2011, on my 20th birthday, he got down on one knee and proposed to me, of course I said yes!  Everything went downhill from there......

He had already lost his job 2 weeks before my birthday but started a new job 2 days after. He quit this in October without telling me. By this point we were in quite a bit of debt but we kept on paddling through life together. Then in November I went out for night with the girls but was called home around 10pm so I jumped in a taxi and scooted home. When I got there I was let into my own flat by a police officer.....I freaked and ran into the flat, matt was sat there being questioned for having indecent images on his computer. Needless to say I phoned my parents and was picked up shortly after. 2 days later I returned to the flat and we decided to put it all behind us and continue our lives together. Back then it seemed like a good idea but hey ho I was young and naive. Then in August 2012, almost a year after all that happened we got in so much debt we couldn't afford to live anymore so moved into his mums annics to clear some of our debts,

In October 2012 we fell in love with a flat in the Highfield area and put a deposit down on it and in November we moved in. By mid December matt had lost yet another job. I didn't know what to do, Christmas was approaching and we were broke but we paddled through again and in the new year matt got a new job as a door to door salesman. Much different to his usual chef job but it was a job. 1 month later he quit without telling me. It was another 2 months before he ended up getting himself a new job, this time as a line chef in a pub. Everything seemed fine but I couldn't take anymore and in May 2013 we ended up splitting up and moving out of the flat. This time was for good and I don't ever wish to get back with him or to even see him around southampton.

On the 18th July I got together with my current boyfriend, Martin. He knew matt from working together in a pub but I hadn't met him through that. 2 weeks after matt found out I had a new boyfriend, I'm unsure of how but that doesn't matter. He didn't know who I was with. He ended up texting me saying I thought we were getting back together. Ha day chance mate. 2 days later  he thought it was funny to send my friends threatening messages, to put a fish head on my car ariel and then to top it off send me nasty texts. The police had to get involved and he was warned if he made contact with me again he would be arrested for harassment. I haven't heard from him since, thank goodness.